Be a real one

If you follow me on Twitter or Instagram, then you know that I live a pretty prominent life on social media. It’s full of joy, stupid thoughts I have during the day, and funny conversations with my friends.

The other day I deleted these apps from my phone because I realized, oh wait, this isn’t me at all lately. I’ve been portraying the life I wish I had at this moment, instead of dealing with the truth.

This was a difficult realization to come to, but I finally had to face my reality and come up with a plan to overcome my struggle, and hopefully, some of the struggles you are facing.

It’s OK to be sad.

Boom, I said it. Being sad doesn’t equate to weakness, because everyone gets sad. Even those guys we see walking across campus SMILING and wearing shorts when it’s 17 degrees outside get sad. The more I tell myself it’s okay to be sad, the more I believe it.

You guys, if life was nothing but happiness, we’d be so sad we wouldn’t know what to do. Sadness equips us for difficulties and makes us grateful for blessings, which leads me to my next point.

Always count your blessings.

I’ve started this thing where every morning I write down one thing I’m grateful for. I’ve only been doing it for about two weeks, but I can already feel a difference in myself. I have so many things to be thankful for, so why should I instead focus on sadness?

Don’t struggle alone.

Loneliness is a legitimate thing. It can be consuming, so don’t feel like you have to go through hardships by yourself. We were created to go through life together. So, how about we, I don’t know, GO THROUGH LIFE TOGETHER.

I’m kind of a hypocrite on this one, because I’m always scared to share my struggles with my friends for fear of sounding like I just want attention, but true friends will always help you find a way across that mountain.

Joy comes with the morning.

Oh my gosh I LOVE this verse. It’s Psalms 30:5 and it reads, “weeping may tarry the night, but joy comes with the morning.” Well, that kicked me in the face.

This sadness won’t last forever, and even if it seems that way, we have actual confirmation from the Bible (like the BIBLE Bible) that it won’t. So, sit up, have a chat with God, and lean into His comfort because He wants to comfort us.

Don’t “fake” it on social media.

I mostly included this one to remind myself to be a real one every day. Don’t get on Twitter, or Instagram, and proclaim a joyous life if you’re absolutely destroyed. How are your friends going to pray for you if you’re only showing the good side of things?

Faking joy on social media only leads to more sorrow, and I know this from experience. Don’t be ashamed to reach out to others on social media about sadness and struggle, because we all go through it.

This is where I’m at today. In my dorm, listening to music, and struggling without Twitter or Instagram, where “Taylor’s happy life” lives on. I’m sad, and I am dealing with it. That’s okay, because my life won’t remain in this stage forever.

Joy comes AFTER the weeping, my friends.

Taylor Deaton

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